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Surrendering to Yourself:
You Are Your Own Soul Mate
by Iris Krasnow
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Look to yourself for definition and
direction, and not to the judgment of friend, lovers and
peers. Never be afraid to become a fully-flexed
100-percent self who operates out of raw honesty, even
if it means some people think you are outrageous. That's
a key principle of Surrendering to Yourself: Don't dwell
on what other people think of you, focus on what you
think of yourself. Trying to please everyone else just
waters down your voice of truth, and that's the voice
you need to be listening to.
Start loving who you are and how you look at this
moment, imperfections and flaws.
Aging can mean whatever we want it to mean; it
certainly should not mean aspiring to look like a
midlife actress whose physical perfection and perpetual
youth is from cosmetic enhancement and is simply not
attainable by most women. Real beauty springs from
having purpose and passion, whether you are 28 or 50 or
64. What we need to seek is not a perfect physique, but
fitness of life.
If going to work fills you with more dread than
exhilaration it's time to shake up your life. Don't
put off your dreams for a future To Do list that may
never pan out. Right now figure out who you want to be
when you grow up, even if you're already 48. It's never
too late to become who you were meant to be all along.
You get only one lifetime to get it right.
Don't abandon the passion of your soul.
We should, at every age, make sure we remain
connected to our childhood passions, hobbies, sports and
other forms of play that make us feel charged and
hopeful and alive. Don't stop shooting baskets or riding
horses or training in ballet if that's what you once
loved to do. When you are linked to your soul, life
seems a lot more loving, and you are in a better
position to love and serve others.
Real freedom and power comes from knowing exactly who
you are, and that it is only you who can make yourself
whole and happy.
Friends come and go, loved ones die, jobs shift,
children leave home. The only person you can count on to
go the distance is you. So, we all must develop immense
soul power and self-love, so that when our worlds come
unraveled, our selves will remain intact and strong.
Because when all else fails, we still have ourselves,
and selves that are grounded in truth and
self-acceptance are spiritually indestructible.
© Copyright 2003 Iris
Krasnow. All Rights
Reserved.
Iris Krasnow is the author of the
new book, "Surrendering to Yourself: You Are Your
Own Soul Mate." Her previous books include "Surrendering
to Motherhood" and "Surrendering to
Marriage." Her work is featured in many national
publications, including The Washington Post and Parade
magazine. She is the Writer in Residence in the
Washington Semester Program at American University and
lives in Maryland with her husband and four sons.
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